http://www.tmz.com/2010/03/23/inglourious-basterds-restraining-order-michael-fessbender/#ixzz0j3f8lAQT
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Link to the article. I realize it’s TMZ but there other reports out there too. Google is your friend.
After reading the article, it sounds like her restraining order came 9 months after the fact, “apparently.” I would never excuse a man for harming another woman, but do you think this could’ve been avoided if she’d just left him after the first time? I mean, why stick around if he’s already put his hands on you? She had kids and there were two separate incidents. But maybe I’m wrong.
Unfortunately, this happens all the time. Especially is abusive relationships because physical abuse is emotional abuse and these men can be extremely manipulative and protective. They can guilt trip like no other and for anyone thats ever been an unhealthy but addictive relationship, even if it didn’t involve actual physical abuse, it’s easier said than done.
what the fuck? so it’s her fault and she could have avoided it by leaving him? this is why there is such a stigma against women in domestic violence. there are plenty of times when men guilt-trip women into coming back to them and don’t give me that bullshit about ‘how can she love him when he hit her’ abusive relationships are INCREDIBLY damaging psychologically as well. you saying that ‘oh if she just left him it would be better’ isn’t going to help her situation at all.
a friend of mine was raped by a man when she was 11 years old and even when she was 16 she didn’t want to press charges because she was scared to be called a slut. and this is why they don’t press charges, because you know what? they’re called sluts afterwards.
(via juthikaforpresident)